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How to Turn Despair into Hope
When clients first come to therapy, they’ve often reached the depths of despair. Their illness has taken control of nearly everything, and they feel certain that…
Confessions of a Therapist With a Chronic Illness
I've come to realize that my clients value knowing that they're not alone in their suffering. So, for that reason, I offer these confessions on behalf of anyone who is chronically ill or struggling in their body.
Rumination: Why it Happens and How to Respond to It
Have you noticed that when something goes wrong, your mind becomes an extraordinary problem-finding, problem-solving machine?…
Are You Squashing All of Your Joy?
I hear this often from clients who are about to see a new doctor or try a new treatment option:
"I'm trying not to get too excited."
Wait, WHAAAAAT????!!!!
Being in Therapy Doesn't Mean You're Doing Inner Healing Work
People have peculiar ways of helping themselves. I don’t blame them. We learned how to care for ourselves from our parents and caregivers. If we weren’t taught skillful ways…
Are You Making Space for Your Illness?
Have you ever noticed how nature has this way of filling up space? Nature loathes a space, so it will fill it up if you don’t. An example is when you step in the sand…
Illness Will Point You to Your Freedom Every Time
I have noticed something remarkable in my work with clients with medical conditions - something you don't expect when getting diagnosed with a chronic illness.
Stop Inviting Shame to the Party
Sometimes, when we are feeling a deep sense of loneliness, discontent, or pain, self-judgments and negative beliefs show up too. It’s like they get invited…
How to Deal With the Guilt of Outgrowing Your Relationships
“I‘ve changed so much since I got sick 5 years ago. I see the world differently now. Even my values have shifted - I realize the value of self-awareness, compassion…
Everything You Know About Self-Esteem is Bullshit
Did you know that your view of self-esteem is probably resulting in you allowing all the assholes in your life have control over your worth?…
Feeling Jealous of People Who Aren't Sick? Here's How to Cope.
It's not easy to see other people looking healthy and well, enjoying things you can't. Here’s a tip that can help you change your relationship with envy and jealousy, so you can…
Why it's Hard to Ask for Help
Many of my clients tell me that it’s hard for them to ask for help, even when they need it. Having a chronic illness or health condition can sometimes reveal…